| When a dream startles us awake, it
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| | insult. They did not show it, so I did
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| demands our attention.I opened the door
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| | not know, but in my righteous refusal of
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| to find an attractive Pakistani woman on
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| | calories, I missed an opportunity for
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| my doorstep. She asked to come in to
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| | friendship.I wonder how often we reject
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| borrow a cake pan. I let her in and told
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| | people and cultures because of our
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| her to look in the cupboards as I was
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| | limited worldview?Many years ago, when my
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| fixing coffee for my family and
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| | son was a newborn, my husband needed to
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| preoccupied.My parents were visiting for
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| | travel out of state. He didn't want to
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| the first time; my sister and her new
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| | the two of us to stay at home alone and
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| husband were also there. I was anxious to
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| | insisted we join him for the 1500 mile
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| get the coffee started when the woman
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| | car trip. I was too young to argue and
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| asked if I had a certain type of cake
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| | was miserable the whole time. All I
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| pan. I did not and told her she could go
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| | wanted was sleep.A month later, after my
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| to the store nearby and probably find
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| | six-week maternity leave was over and I
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| one. She resisted this idea and suggested
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| | had returned to work, he bought tickets
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| that I could use a pan like that; why
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| | to Tahiti for my birthday. Flying halfway
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| don't I buy one?I was incensed. In my
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| | across the world with an infant at home
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| mind, I had let this woman into my home,
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| | was not my idea of a vacation. I returned
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| offered to loan her what items I had to
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| | exhausted and sick with strep throat.For
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| make her stupid cake and then she had the
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| | years I harbored anger at his
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| nerve to suggest I buy the cake pan that
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| | insensitivity and mentally criticized
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| she needed. I forced her bodily from my
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| | every gift he offered. In the light of my
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| home.In the light of day, this dream
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| | dream, I see his behavior more clearly.
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| (like so many) seems stupid. But someone
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| | It's simple really: He wanted to protect
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| once advised that in order to unearth the
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| | his family and to give to the woman he
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| cause of a dream, we must dissect the
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| | loved.In an indifferent and self-absorbed
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| root of its emotion. I awoke enraged.
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| | world, it is often wise to question a
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| What was the nature of this extreme
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| | person's motive. But how many
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| reaction?I began tentatively to view the
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| | opportunities for community and
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| experience from the woman's perspective.
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| | connectedness would we gain if we looked
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| Could it be that she wanted me to have
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| | at a person expecting the highest he has
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| the cake pan so that I might bake a cake
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| | to offer?Nicolette Beard is a former
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| for my family? Could it be that she
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| | editor, publisher and advertising
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| wanted to share the joy of what if means
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| | executive. Currently, she provides
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| to give to others? Was the cake a
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| | insightful commentary on issues men face
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| metaphor for the sweetness in life that I
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| | including midlife crisis, male menopause
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| refused to partake?I do not know the
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| | and finding your purpose in life. --
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| Pakistani culture, but I recalled an
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| | Providing Midlife Men a Place to Breathe
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| experience I had with some Armenian
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| | -- is the only blog for men written from
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| friends many years ago. They too offered
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| | a woman's unique perspective.Visit "Life
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| me cake which I did not eat. Later a
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| | Changing Resources" for ideas on midlife
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| friend told me that this was a great
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| | career change.
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