Learning to Fly

">I was ready.
At the age of 9 through string of coincidences (as itI was flying the plane! And it was easy, just holding it
usually goes) I took a flight above Banja Luka in Bosniastraight, maybe even boring for a while because I didn't
in a small jet plane Cesna used for pilot flight traininghave a clue where I was going and apart from the
but temporarily serving as a sightseeing tool. Although Iknowledge that I was eventually going to get to the
have been on the plane before I have neverground I was clueless of what I wanted to do, how to
experienced being in a cockpit. The feeling ofmake the flight more interesting. It all seemed easy
excitement and slight doze of fear overwhelmed me:when he was doing it but once I was holding the
after all, the seats were not cozy jumbo jet ones, wejoystick one sudden move to the right made the whole
were not in the economy class, far away from thejet gasp with power and followed my command
first but views were spectacular and seeing all theinstantly. Even the pilot shouted: "Take it easy!!!" while I
gadgets in front of me was experience worth toapologetically regained my leadership and learned how
remember. Pilot was kind to let me know what eachto easily move with just few gently touches.
instrument was for, what I could and couldn't touch andI learned to fly.
after enjoying the bird view with few circles above theFlying towards your goals
ground he suddenly asked me if I was interested to tryDid you know that small jet planes are off the course
and control the machine. Ultimate surprise and disbelief90% of time? Pilot uses the inertial guidance system
didn't last long since I quickly thought that an opportunityas the reference for 'missed direction' which still
like that can't be easily released. I believe I blushed andenables the flight to arrive on time.
spoke faintly into the microphone attached to theI first learned about this reading Susan Jefferson's Feel
headphones trying to out speak the noise of thethe Fear And Do It Anyway where she talks about
engine: "Can I? What do I need to do?"Stewart Emery's model for changing direction in life:
He pointed at the joystick-like controller in front of his"So the path from here to where we want to be
seat and as he moved it to the left or right, up orstarts with an error, which we correct, which becomes
down the jet obediently followed to the same direction.the next error, which we correct and that becomes
"See, it's easy, move it to the direction you want to go."the next error, which we correct. So the only time we
The same controller was in front of my seat too so Iare truly on course is that moment in the zigzag when
took it glad the noise was killing my internal dialog. Iwe actually cross the true path."
was truly afraid of the responsibility at the first butConsider using your emotions as the inertial guidance
happy to see that pilot was not letting go of hissystem when moving toward your goals. If you are
commands - we were on for the ride together! Andexperiencing any negative emotions (apathy, grief, fear,
on we went for another circle above beautiful Banjalust, anger or pride) stop and ask yourself "What is this
Luka, the day was clear and amazing panoramicsituation telling me? What can I do differently to enable
views opened up while I wished my mental cameramyself to pass this stage? What are my strengths
was on recording it for life (and it did!). While I wasand how can I utilize them the best in this situation?"
relaxing from my fear of pretending to fly the planeUsing the simple technique of releasing can help you
(after all I was only nine!) the pilot looked me and said:go through these stages quickly and jump into the
"Now do it on your own." My goodness, I rememberpositive emotional realm of courageousness,
when I was learning to ride a bicycle, similar thingacceptance and peace.
happened but the outcome was not so nice - bruisedEnjoy the journey and may peace be with you
knees and hurt pride after I realized my father let goQuestions to ponder:
of my seat was not what I wanted to go throughWhen was the last time you did something for the first
again knowing that there would be more than justtime?
bruised knees! This time (again) I didn't have time toWhat are your long and short-term goals?
negotiate, the pilot sat back in his seat, let go of theVisualize yourself as you achieved these goals. What
commands and suggested me to go left or right whendo you see, how do you feel about achieving them?